“What do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s what every child hears when they are little. As if a 5 year old has any clue what’s out there to do. You hear all kinds of responses from a police officer, a firefighter, a nurse, dinosaur hunter, and or even a super hero! …
One of the outcomes of emotional abuse is complete loss of self. An emotional abuser doesn’t want their victim to have any strength that may challenge their own – they feel threatened when their partner owns an identity separate from theirs. It’s one of the primary tactics and purposes for emotional abuse – to take away their victim’s individuality and purpose apart from their own personal gain.
Being kind to ourselves can be so hard sometimes. However, we have to learn to do it. For some people, it’s very easy to be kind to others, but then when it comes to ourselves we say things we wouldn’t dream of saying to another human being. Why is that??
