Forgiving our abuser or anyone that’s really hurt us is hard. For some it feels impossible. Don’t worry, though, I’m not here to ask you to forgive anyone. While it’s healthy for ourselves to forgive others, that doesn’t always mean we can remain in relationship with them if we do. There is a condition to …
“What do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s what every child hears when they are little. As if a 5 year old has any clue what’s out there to do. You hear all kinds of responses from a police officer, a firefighter, a nurse, dinosaur hunter, and or even a super hero! …
One of the outcomes of emotional abuse is complete loss of self. An emotional abuser doesn’t want their victim to have any strength that may challenge their own – they feel threatened when their partner owns an identity separate from theirs. It’s one of the primary tactics and purposes for emotional abuse – to take away their victim’s individuality and purpose apart from their own personal gain.
Being kind to ourselves can be so hard sometimes. However, we have to learn to do it. For some people, it’s very easy to be kind to others, but then when it comes to ourselves we say things we wouldn’t dream of saying to another human being. Why is that??
Back in 2020 I had the awesome opportunity to interview a very good friend of mine, Whitney Teel with Wilmington Coastal Doulas, about achieving a major accomplishment despite fears and insecurities. She’s such an inspiration to me, and always has been. I’ve known Whitney for about 15 years and she never ceases to amaze me. Both …
Have you ever felt like a friend or loved one was walking all over you? Maybe you’re feeling like a doormat? Maybe it’s your best friend or your spouse. Perhaps your brother or sister seems to feel entitled to your time and resources. Does your church expect you to be present whenever the doors are …
It can be hard to love ourselves when we are in the throws of challenges that mess with our emotional and mental health, but I want to start by saying you are worth something so magnificent that no words could put a label on it. I know that to be true because God said you …
“You are a horrible communicator” “You don’t communicate with me” “Communication is key” “Our problem is that you don’t communicate” “Communication, communication, communication.” It got to the point where just hearing the word communication is now a borderline trigger for me. I don’t go into full-blown flashbacks over it, but it definitely makes my stomach …
Read more “Why Its Impossible To Communicate With a Narcissist”
Previously in Spiritual Abuse Part 1 – Spiritual Abuse Is A Thing I outlined and described specifically what spiritual abuse is and how to spot the signs. I gave some examples of how one is victimized by this type of abuse and how it so easily crushes the victim and traps them in a never-ending cycle …
*deep breath* This one’s a biggy. Please be aware that a section in this blog article may be very sensitive and triggering to some victims/survivors. If you have had sexual trauma and/or PTSD, read with caution, as I mention marital rape in this article. A trigger warning is labeled before and after this section. This article was …
