Why do we go through trials? Why do wonderful things happen out of no where? I mean have you ever really stopped and asked – “Why??” I think most of us have. Why does *anything* happen to *anyone* for that matter? What is life even about? If you start asking “why did this happen?” then …
Abuse makes you feel crazy. Abuse literally causes your brain to use survival tactics in an attempt to stay sane and alive. When the body faces high stress or threat it activates what’s commonly known as the “fight or flight” syndrome – amped up levels of cortisol and other stress hormones to allow your body …
Ever heard those words? Ever said those words? Ever wanted to say them but held your tongue? Let’s be honest. Sometimes we just don’t feel like it. Whatever “it” is. As a trauma survivor with ADHD, I know how much harder things feel now than they ever felt before. For me, it’s adulting. Sometimes I just …
Emotional Set-Backs During Abuse Recovery Let’s be realistic. No one bounces back from trauma perfectly, immediately, and without set backs. I don’t care how good your therapy is, how strong your will is, and how amazing your support system is. You’ve gone through extensive emotional trauma, and it takes years to undo what was done. …
They say that hypertension (high blood pressure) is the silent killer. It is the root cause of almost 500,000 deaths per year according to the CDC. 1 That’s pretty remarkable – but what’s even more remarkable is that most people who have hypertension or are on the road to it have absolutely no idea it’s lurking around …
Getting out of an abusive relationship is extremely difficult. Some people never make it out alive. Domestic violence is scary, life-altering, confusing, and dangerous. Being a survivor means just that – you survived and now it’s time to move forward with the rest of your life! Moving forward definitely does not mean forgetting. The first …
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As I was walking to a bench at the very back of the park, far away from the traffic noise and other visitors to rest, I noticed the ground which looked like solid grass was getting very soft. As I progressed, it got very squishy, wet, and slippery. Then as I took another step I realized my foot was going to get immersed in the muddy ground if I kept going. What are you holding back from reaching because of the muddy ground and uncertainty?
“What do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s what every child hears when they are little. As if a 5 year old has any clue what’s out there to do. You hear all kinds of responses from a police officer, a firefighter, a nurse, dinosaur hunter, and or even a super hero! …
One of the outcomes of emotional abuse is complete loss of self. An emotional abuser doesn’t want their victim to have any strength that may challenge their own – they feel threatened when their partner owns an identity separate from theirs. It’s one of the primary tactics and purposes for emotional abuse – to take away their victim’s individuality and purpose apart from their own personal gain.
Being kind to ourselves can be so hard sometimes. However, we have to learn to do it. For some people, it’s very easy to be kind to others, but then when it comes to ourselves we say things we wouldn’t dream of saying to another human being. Why is that??
